Sunday, 5 January 2014

Happy new year and all that stuff

Hello all and happy new year.
I just saw that last time I blogged was in may last year.
How many things have happened and show different are things now.
Last blog things looked on the upside but all was not well. We never really managed to bring back the D/s element in our relation. melinda thinks it was the undoing of our relation, I believe it was the opposite: Our relation has started to erode and I now believe that as sex will go down the potty in a vanilla relation before it ends, those who do TTWD will not do TTWD any more before the relation ends.
January 2014 and indeed we decided to end it. I was at whits end over Xmas but melinda was the one in the end to break it off. It has been an interesting (and great) time, past few years and we will endeavour to remain friends but we are both single again. There are many complicated reasons for it and they are too private to discuss, specifically since I should now more then ever respect melinda's privacy. In any case things have gone as they went and we both do not think any one was at fault. It was just one of those cases that the situation was against us.
As a Dom I have had a difficult time the last year or so. I have suffered some dents in my confidence due to the unravelling of first our D/s dynamics and as of yesterday our relation. Ironically (for melinda perhaps) I have felt a Dom for many years and had subbies before melinda. I still feel a Dom. I am not saying I will rush out to find a new subbie, it may be too early for that. But I will pick up my position as Dom again and I intend (mind you I am very busy, so no promises) make a come back in the blog sphere of TTWD. As a freelance Dom for the moment, so to say.
And now I will have a look what is going on here.
Oh and I will also redo my templates and all, but there is time for that.

Hope to see my previous fellow bloggers here again
Cheers, Brutus
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13 comments:

  1. blossom5 January 2014 at 21:47

    awe am so sorry to hear that You and melinda have parted, a difficulty time for both of you ...hopefully You will be able to remain within the lifestyle and get back on track again and that 2014 will be a good year for You...smiles

    hugs
    blossom

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    1. Elder6 January 2014 at 16:12

      Hi blossom, thanks for your kind words, it will be more a return to the lifestyle since that aspect failed first in our relation. I plan though though I am now very much in the phase of not imagining any one else. So I will try to return to this blog to start with as a single Dom, a bit like a minister without portfolio I guess ;)
      I always appreciated your comments and your words are uplifting.
      Elder

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  2. AtiyaLuv6 January 2014 at 02:46

    I followed you and Melinda for a while, I am sorry to hear such news.

    Welcome back.
    Aluv.

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    1. Elder6 January 2014 at 16:16

      Hi Aluv, thank you as well for your comment, of course I remember you as part of our blog community and thanks for welcoming me back. Something to look forward to.
      Elder

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  3. Anonymous6 January 2014 at 04:14

    I'm sorry too, Brutus, but thank you so much for posting an update. I wish all the best for both you and melinda in 2014 and beyond! Wolf ended our relationship last spring and it's not so bad being a free agent, so to speak. :) But I'm sure you will feel the loss acutely for awhile since you and melinda were together a long time. Sending lots of hugs, squirrel

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  4. Elder6 January 2014 at 16:24

    Hi squirrel, I have very fond memories of you and I feel bad that we totally missed your break up. I am sorry as well for that. How is your real life, i.e. marriage doing? (if you don't mind me asking). Yes I do feel the loss of melinda, she was a special girl and special to me. But life goes on. I have tries to go on your blog, but I could not get in. Is it still alive (under one of you, I guess it is not shared anymore at least). Do you have a new blog I can go to? If not, can I entice you to start one...
    Nice hearing from you as well.
    Elder

    Oh PS, though I signed my post of yesterday with Brutus, I actually remember that is what melinda used to call me in the good old days. I guess now it is Elder again.

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    1. Anonymous7 January 2014 at 07:09

      Hi Elder. There wasn't much too miss about our break-up. One moment there were endless platitudes of love and devotion, the next I saw a flash of fur and a wolf tail disappearing over a hill. That was all and that was it! :) I am doing great, r/l is good, yes life definitely goes on. No, there is no blog or otherwise. I've had two blogs in three years and that is enough for me for now. I am rather enjoying being sans blog. I don't pop into blogland too often except to keep up with the lovely Aluv and beautiful blossom from time to time, but I just happened to be on right after you posted. I'll try to stay around to read about your new adventures!

      xoxo, squirrel

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    2. Anonymous7 January 2014 at 07:10

      I meant "There wasn't too much to miss ..." lol. :)

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    3. Elder7 January 2014 at 19:17

      Hi squirrel, yes I guessed that. I am happy your real relation survived the experience. The question is now, where are you going with your submissiveness. And I am looking forward to your comments in the future, though adventures is a bit of a big word for the moment.
      See you around, take care, Elder

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  5. blossom11 February 2014 at 21:36

    hi Elder, just wondering how You are doing??
    blossom x

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    1. Elder11 February 2014 at 22:03

      Hi blossom,

      I wil be writing soon, I am fine.

      Elder

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    2. blossom15 February 2014 at 16:19

      cool looking forward to hearing from you...smiles

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  6. Unknown26 July 2014 at 18:46

    Ehm....Hi? Bit...flabergasted after reading this... I'm glad to see friendly faces here though :)
    xxx

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